Part 2 Shame On You For Hurting Me. Shame On Me For Trusting You.

This is how I was able to move on from the pain my past therapist caused me.

After blogging part one was the first step in my healing process. That helped get rid of my anger and emotional pain.

The second step was to realize I don’t have to own this pain. The more time passed I was able to start letting go of the pain.

I used many DBT skills I had been taught. It was automatic for some skills. I did turn to a new DBT therapist and telling him the experiences I went through with my past therapist and her best friend helped tremendously.

He was very validating and gave me wise mind suggestions how to get through the stages of abandonment and allow myself to face the facts to heal.

I trust him and use the skills he is giving me to let go and live in the present moment.

He opened my eyes to see that I actually had been with the wrong therapist all along. I was better off seeing a therapist that teaches me versus venting on me.

I am seeing this DBT therapist on a regular basis. I feel free of all that anger and hurt. I let go of what happened to me. I now feel my power is back and I’m in wise mind again.

I appreciate my new therapist and trust him completely. I’m still learning. I’m in a better place in my mind now. I will continue to work hard to stay in this state of mind.

Copyright (c) 2018 by Jean Rhymoreason Powell. All Rights Reserved.

Healthy Communication Is An Important Foundation

When two people meet and start feeling that spark turn into a large flame they communicate all emotions felt to each other.

After time the communication of thoughts and emotions get assumed or “she should automatically know what I need”.

That is a false belief. All emotions and thoughts need to continue to be shared everyday with your soulmate. By doing this there are no assumptions or misreading each other.

When the communication is cut off your thoughts and emotions stay in your head. This is where you begin to get stuck. By not sharing with each other those stuck thoughts you are putting up a wall between you and your soulmate.

This is when the misinterpreted intensions start between the two of you and the sparks are thrown at each other with negative words. Resentment may start to settle in. Then all the little things get on your nerves.

It goes so long that the big reason for the disagreements are forgotten and all the sparks flying at each other are now for small petty things.

This is how my wife and I prevent the misunderstandings in our relationship…..we do check ins throughout the day everyday with each other. We talk about thoughts and emotions on everything.

When I say everything that means talking about how we feel about the world and what’s going on around us, to our feelings being hurt by others or even each other.  We even talk about dreams we have of our future being the best we can make it be.

I’m not saying that our relationship is perfect, because it’s not. We still have our off days. We still assume once in awhile each others intentions. Or we keep thoughts and emotions to ourselves for a few days to put the pieces of our puzzle together in our head before sharing them with each other.

When this happens, yes we hurt each other and one brick of that wall is formed. Because our communication is practiced everyday we can talk and share this misunderstanding to get us back to good.

It’s a work in progress for everyday for the rest of our lives. Practice makes perfect. As the years go by we get closer and love each other more each and everyday. We make a team of two named soulmates forever.

Copyright © 2015 By Jean Powell. All Rights Reserved.