Part 2 Shame On You For Hurting Me. Shame On Me For Trusting You.

This is how I was able to move on from the pain my past therapist caused me.

After blogging part one was the first step in my healing process. That helped get rid of my anger and emotional pain.

The second step was to realize I don’t have to own this pain. The more time passed I was able to start letting go of the pain.

I used many DBT skills I had been taught. It was automatic for some skills. I did turn to a new DBT therapist and telling him the experiences I went through with my past therapist and her best friend helped tremendously.

He was very validating and gave me wise mind suggestions how to get through the stages of abandonment and allow myself to face the facts to heal.

I trust him and use the skills he is giving me to let go and live in the present moment.

He opened my eyes to see that I actually had been with the wrong therapist all along. I was better off seeing a therapist that teaches me versus venting on me.

I am seeing this DBT therapist on a regular basis. I feel free of all that anger and hurt. I let go of what happened to me. I now feel my power is back and I’m in wise mind again.

I appreciate my new therapist and trust him completely. I’m still learning. I’m in a better place in my mind now. I will continue to work hard to stay in this state of mind.

Copyright (c) 2018 by Jean Rhymoreason Powell. All Rights Reserved.

Let’s Talk About Double Standards

What are double standards? Why are there double standards? Several reasons why I suppose. Your boss hates you, your friend expects more than you can give, relatives may think you have it easier than they do. The list goes on and on.

Double standards….here’s an example of what they are. Your boss gives you a task that everyone hates. This task use to be a roation for all employees, but not anymore, now you get the task everyday on top of the other work load you already have.

Your friends needs you more than you need him. He has a big heart and will give to you just enough to keep the friendship. The favors he asks of you sometimes are easy, but as soon as he asks for something you can’t do for him, Shit hits the fan and he throws at you all the things he has done for you.

You have a relative that thinks they have it worse than you do even tho they don’t know your whole life story. They make this public to whoever they can because they would rather be stuck in their own pitty party than ask for facts.

Hurtful things said can pierce someone into a state of mind no one wants to be in. Everyone has their own life problems. It may seem some people have it worse than others but the fact is they more than likely don’t.

And life has it’s fun enjoyable times too. Don’t let hurtful words destroy a family. People are more important than things. Peoples’ hearts are more important than different situations.

Comparing situation bring pain to everyone. It’s not healthy to compare life situations to your own. Families need to be there for each other not stay bitter. Life is too short to hold grudges. Forgive and forget. Love and be loved. We all do the best we can.

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