Something so horrible was done to me that now I’m their hostage.
I no longer want to be caged up in these tears. I no longer want to quit being me due to the pain you caused.
I am breaking free right now by telling my story. That’s right I’m getting my healthy mindset back and you will no longer be a thought in my mind.
This is my story.
I trusted my DBT therapist. I cared about her. I opened up my book of me. No one has heard my fears, my emotions, my thoughts, my everything that makes me, Me.
For five years of my life you taught me how to get out of emotional mind, find reasonable mind and stay in wise mind.
I was proud of my accomplishments. I was proud you helped me be a better Person. How to leave the past in the past. To live in the present and cope ahead for my future.
All that vanished the day you dropped me like yesterdays trash.
Your best friend started contacting me for help, validation and how to cope with you hurting her. This should have been stopped the moment you found out she was doing this.
You told her to stay away from me. You told her to stop all contact with me. You know your best friend inside and out. You know she wouldn’t listen to what you asked her do.
You never once told me to stop all contact with your best friend. You never told me this is unethical. Each time I asked you if it was okay to be friends with her your response was ” I can’t tell you who you can or cannot tell me to be friends with.” In this case I believe you had the right to tell me don’t be friends with your best friend.
I believe you should have told me how dangerous it would be to be friends with her. In this particular case you should of warned me how unethical it was, how being friends with your best friend would lead up to you hurting me as much as you did.
Trust is a hard thing to gain. Trust is what gave you the in to help me. But you let the friendship play out. Your best friend created such a triangle of chaos. You just let it happen. She disobeyed every request you asked of her. You know her well enough that she wouldn’t listen to you.
Your manner changed, your words changed, your demeaner changed, how you treated me changed. I was so close to you I could read your body language like a book.
You would get short with me when I reached out for help. Your words were selfish. You even said ‘I’m sick of hearing about me going back and forth with a decision I had to make.” You are a therapist and DBT coach. The words and tone you had were all in emotional mind.
You worked so hard to teach me stay in wisemind yet you are the one in emotional mind. You made me feel like a burden. I stopped reaching out to you for help. You realized I stopped asking you for help. You owned your actions and changed your behavior for a while and asked me to reach out for help.
I still feared reaching out to you. So I would pick and choose when to reach out to you for help. Then eventually stopped contacting you for help again.
Your replies for your help were unprofessional words. Your words made me feel worse. Not helpful at all. Your words just added more fear and insecurities.
Your best friend kept contacting me venting about you. I told her talking about my therapist with me is not allowed. She kept contacting me anyway.
She would tell me things about you that she should not have. Again I reminded her I can’t talk about my therapist with you. The boundaries were broken more times than I can count.
You never stepped in to stop this. At least from my end anyway. It finally got to the point where you and I both were between a rock and a hard place.
Your best friend lied to you over and over. I again kept asking are you sure I shouldn’t be friends with your best friend. You gave me the same answer as always, “I can tell you who you can and can’t be friends with.
My spouse contacted you and let you know how this triangle is braking all ethics of a therapist.
This brought you to let your best friend read that text. Then your best friend came to my work place and threatened she was going to sue me if I turn you into the board. I had no thoughts of doing this and never will.
Your best friend told me she is in love with you and if she lost you she would be 6’ under. I told her at that point her and I no longer will be friends ever again. I then met with you the next day and I spilled everything that your best friend did and said this past year about you. I told you how she is so obsessed with you she needs help.
Obviously I read your body language and you felt violated and very angry with your best friend. I validated your emotions. I would of felt the same way you did. That’s the day you told me to find a different therapist. There was no closure between you and I. You were so angry you slammed your note pad and pen on the end table.
I told you I don’t want a different therapist. I don’t want to start over trusting someone else and being open with a stranger.
You and I understood each other and I could talk to you about anything. Now I lost all that. Everything you taught me, how I was no longer afraid of opening up, my trust and care for you was taken from me that day.
The worst part about it is I did nothing to deserve this pain. I cannot start therapy with someone else. I am in cruciating pain ever since that day. I bet you and your best friend don’t even give me a second thought. I now need to get angry, be done grieving and take my power back.
I have had contact with the leading DBT therapist. She said this is a horrible thing that you’ve done to me. She also said all this is unethical and broke hippa laws. She told me this is something serious enough to be reported to the board.
I will never take this to the board. I care that much about you and the stresses you have in life that I don’t want to cause more stress to your life nor chance of you losing your license and your business.
As you once said to me when I needed DBT skills help from you, all you gave me was “count your blessings”. Oh and one more thing you said to me ‘quit having pitty parties.
So this is what I say to you, I never have pitty parties. Count your blessing. I wish you the best. I am now throwing you out of my mind forever!
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